Another city

Today was the day i was to meet up with a wing in Nottingham. The weather was miserable but pressed on as i had been lacking in practice all week. I was to meet 'weaponx' as he was so called, upon meeting up we decided that we would approach at least 5 targets excluding warm ups.

Approach 3 ( carrying on from previous post)

Intended as a warm up but turned out to be alright. Approached a HB and opened with the an opinion opener, thinking that my wing would stay (he left) in the conversation i expressed that 'me and my mate were arguing about this....'. she responded positively and talked about her past experience with lying. ' i responded with a comment on what she said. after i told her she looked kinda spanish, she was prompt to correct me that she was brazilian. and followed up with 'so what are you doing in england?' may be i said it in a way that was a bit demanding because i could see her edging away. she started walking away and saying she was in a hurry after she told me she was studying here.

I thought nothing of it because i saw it at the time as a warm up. But the that was my sticking point - i didnt reach a hook point, i could have inclined the situation by challenging or qualifying her.

Approach 4 

This was a three set we opened together (me and weaponx). i opened with the situation opener who lies more to get x involved. it was going well. afterwards i stacked by saying that we had traveled into notts to buy a present for a friend, (ive started using this topic to involve the persons in the set, not just as an opener). They replied back with usual response .. blah blah blah. this is where the set went down hill - weaponx i felt was a bit inexperineced at this point started to coming off as demanding and left the conversation a bit dry. At that point we ejected.

reflecting back there was one HB that talked the most, another who talked every now and again and the third who didnt say anything. I could have verbalized this to challenge them.

Approach 5

Wasn't really much here - opened direct ' i think you look amazing' . she replied back thankyou  and walked straight passed me. Thinking about what i did when i opened, i withdrew eye contact which in my opinion is crucial in opening any type of set.

I felt a bit better after x told me that he had suffered from worse outcomes than just a 'thankyou'.

Approach 6

This HB was a 'walking target' dressed in this ridiculous furry coat, with bear like ears sticking up out of  the hood . didnt see her face but just thought had to approach anyway. opened from a little infront, ' i love your coat  by the way'  . Hb ' aww, thanks' Me - 'wer did you get such a coat from?' . she says some shop i hadnt heard of. anyway i cut straight to the chase tell her how wonderful she looked, again ' aww thankyou' . i stacked with the present topic. and she responded with 'i dont really know' at this point i think was asking too many questions . told her accent doesn't sound from around and where she was from. responding that she was at university and from milton keyns. As we reached the ended of the road, heres where the cringing starts; shes says she need to go right and told me 'you need to go the other way dont you?', i was like i can can come and walk with you!! fuarrrk! straight after i said it registered and i think it come off weird. Jus ejected straight after.

Another outcome was to number close when we stopped, telling her along the lines of we should meet up for coffee sometime :s

x pointed out that i had to be careful because it was showing when in had the cringe worthy moments in the conversation.

Today i learnt i needed to hold eye contact when opening at least, display a bit of emotion and don't let what i think implement itself in to the conversation.

going to try the yad stop next time